College professors are faced with a new generation of students, one filled with students termed “teacups,” students who literally break or go to pieces when faced with failure of any sort. They’ve been protected, nurtured, and coddled from their first pre-school until they’ve sent off to college. Their upbringing has been so carefully managed that all too many of them have never faced major disappointments or setbacks. Their parents have successfully terrorized public school teachers into massive grade inflation and a lack of rigor – except at select schools and some advanced placement classes where the pressure is so great that many of the graduates of those schools come to college as jaded products of early forced success, also known as “crispies” – already burned out.
Neither “regime” of “success” is good for young people. As I’ve noted before, the world is a competitive place, and getting more so. Not everyone can be President, or CEO, or a Nobel Prize-winning author or scientist. Some do not have the abilities even for the few middle management jobs available, and many who do have the abilities will not achieve their potential because there are more people with ability than places for them.
Even more important is the fact that most successful individuals have had more failures in life than is ever widely known, at least until after they’ve been successful. Before he became President Abraham Lincoln had a most mixed record. Among other things, he failed as a storekeeper, as a farmer, in his first attempt to obtain political office, his first attempt to go to Congress, in trying to get an appointment to the United States Land Office, in running for the United States Senate, and in seeking the nomination for the vice-presidency in 1856. Thomas Edison made 1,000 attempts before he created a successful light bulb. Henry Ford went broke five times before he succeeded.
For the most part, people learn more from their failures than their successes. More often than not, most people who are early successes, without failure somewhere along the line, never really fulfill their potential. Even Steve Jobs, thought of as an early success, failed several times before he could launch Apple, and then the management of the company that he founded threw him out… before he returned to revitalize Apple.
Yet these young college students are so terrified of failing that many of them will not attempt anything they see as risky or where a possibility of failure exists. Yet, paradoxically, many will attempt something they have no business trying or something well beyond their ability because they have been told how wonderful they are all their lives – and they become bitter and angry at everyone else when they fail, because they have no experience with failing… and no understanding that everyone fails at something sometime, and that it’s a learning experience.
Instead, they blame the professor for courses that are too difficult or that they were overstressed or overworked… or something else, rather than facing the real reasons why they failed.
Failure is a learning experience, one that teaches one his or her shortcomings and lacks, and sometimes a great deal about other people as well. The only failure with failure is failing to understand this and to get on with the business of life… and learning where and at what you can succeed.