This is the season for high school and college graduations… and a time when the famous and semi-famous are often invited to provide inspiring graduation speeches. I’ve never been asked to speak at any graduation, because I’m obviously not even semi-famous enough, but I’ve often thought about what I might say.
Over the years, I’ve heard students, in responding to questions about what they intend to do, express sentiments such as “I want to be famous.” Or they want to be happy or rich. The more idealistic among them want to do something meaningful or “make a difference.” And, of course, all too often, graduation speakers talk about “these talented graduates” and how they can change the world. They offer inspirational advice that implies close to instant achievement… and sometimes more.
Now, perhaps I’ve been at the wrong graduations at the wrong time, but the ones I’ve attended, and there are more than a few, given the number of offspring we’ve had, often miss one of the most basic points. I’m sure that some speaker, somewhere, has made this point, but I suspect that it’s fairly rare.
All the lofty aspirations too many students and speakers mouth are all results, and sometimes, as in the case of being happy or famous, they’re not even goals that anyone can attain directly. There is no business and no profession that creates happiness or fame directly [Hollywood and the Internet notwithstanding], and there’s not a single profession entitled “make a difference.” To be happy, you have to take satisfaction in what you do in life and in the people with whom you associate. That means acquiring significant expertise in a field, and that requires, usually, long and dedicated effort. The same is true of relationships; they just don’t happen.
As for doing something meaningful or making a difference, that generally requires even more education and years of effort. In his book, Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell makes the point that in every field, to be successful takes not only innate talent but at least 10,000 hours of dedicated and focused high-level effort. That’s 10,000 hours of practicing piano or singing, always trying to master more and more difficult pieces, not to mention needing a solid mentor and teacher. That’s 10,000 hours of writing computer codes, building your own hardware and programming it. That’s generally a minimum of ten years of intensive application in a single field, most of it after finishing formal education. Athletic success has to start earlier, of course, as does most musical performance, because muscles have to be trained as they develop… but it still takes 10,000 hours.
So… all those lofty aspirations… those of you about to graduate can pretty much kick them aside unless you want to work with incredible dedication for the next ten years, and that’s just the beginning! As for the less lofty aspirations, such as being happy, achieving them still requires an interest in and a dedication to something that you like doing that pays the bills, because, frankly put, no one stays happy long if you can’t put food on the table, clothes on your back, and a roof over your head.
Talent, intelligence, and ideals are just the beginning of the beginning… and that’s something that’s not often emphasized enough. Not that anyone’s going to ask me to give that speech.